Stupid love

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.

Have you lost "Yourself" ?

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”

Life is far away from this materialistic world? I felt it

SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $100 an hour.”
SON: “Oh! (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $50?”
The father was furious.
DAD: “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard every day for such this childish behavior.”

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?
After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $ 50 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”
SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.
DAD: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $50 you asked for.”
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”
Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.
DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”
SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.

“Daddy, I have $100 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $100 worth of your time with someone you love? If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family and friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family.

loosing your reality? Makes your life more miserable

Dikhawe me kya rhka hai?

kabhi socha hai humare charo taraf humesha bas dikhwa chalta rhta hai.
Aur duniya ka dastoor bhi toh kesa hai jo dikhwa na kare log use pta nhi kis janam ka samjhte hai.

Har jagah dekho log bas dikhwa he toh kiye jaa rhe hai.
Kyu apne aap se dur bhaag rhe ho kya khud ki asliyat acchi nahi lagti?
Are agar ek baar tumhe ye mahsus ho gya ki sach me dikhawe me kuch nhi rkha to aapke aadhe dukh to wese he dur ho jayenge.

Wo dekho koi aadmi mar gya hai bhut saari mahilaaye ro rhi hai. Waha Kadhe hue logo me se kevel 40 % ese log hai jo sach me dukhi hai aur baaki sab bas dikawa kiye jaa rhe hai. Unhe dikawa karna shikaya gya hai usme unka bhi toh koi dosh nhi hai bas wo bachpan se yahi dekhte hue bade hue hai.

Sach me uss aadmi ke marne se kisi ka koi nuksaan nhi hua bas uski biwi aur bacho ke alwa.
Par baaki sab bhi kya utne he nuksaan se gujar rhe hai?
kya sach me unhe dukh bhi hua hai?
Nhi sach me esa nhi he kuch log bas tamasha dekhne ke liye kadhe hai baaki ke bas ro kar dikhwa kar rhe hai.
Aur uski patni aur bacche he sach me uski kami ko mahsus kr skte hai.

Ese he bhut se examples aap ko apni roj ki zindgi me mil jayenge aur agar aap gaur se dekhe toh sach me dikwa kuch nhi hai.. Aap khud ki alag pachan ko kho dete hai aap bina kuch soch kar bas wo krne lagte hai jo kaafi dino se hota chala aa rha hai.

Par kyu ki koi kaam kaafi dino se ho rha hai toh iska matlb ye kabhi nhi ho skta ki wo sahi he hoga.

Jara sochiye. ..

Dikhwa bhul jaiye - aap jese bhi hai usi tarike se apni zindgi ko jina sikhye - asli zindgi wahi hai,,, Logo ki madad kriye aur apne vicharo ko accha rakhiye Bhagwan humesha aap ke sath rhenge.

“BLACK HOLE OF LIFE”

                          

The researchers in England invented a material which they named “Vanta Black” and claimed that it’s the blackest material and can absorbs 99.9% of radiation that falls on it, just like a black hole and just started a new era space technology. After reading about this material and about it’s qualities, a thought popped up into my mind that even our desires are just like this black hole, no matter how much we achieve in our life, the desire of keep getting more & more remains in our consciousness and this “desire hole” which I termed it always persuades us to add more, But have we ever realized, why this thing keep happening with us and how can we dis-integrate this tenderness from our personality if we really want to? And on contrary, a major section of society thinks that if we don’t have these burning desires in our self we won’t be able to achieve anything in our life and can’t even grow with this attitude of solitude and laziness which I found many think after hearing this philosophy of mine.

I found the answer of this dilemma in the words of Lord Budhha, He explained this dilemma by giving an example of ‘Strings on a Sitar’ which is musical instrument particularly uses in india for the tune generation just like guitar or violin in western countries. So what happens if we keep the strings too loose the sound we cannot get the desired sounds and it will be of no use and if we keep it too tight the strings might break. So it implies that if we keep indulge in this materialistic world too heavily, we can’t flourish truly and if we keep involve in spirituality too much and follow a ascetic life how can we survive because we do need something to survive and to fulfill our basic needs like eating, residence etc.

So we need to struck the cord of balance between this materialistic world and self-awakening of inner consciousness, only then we can achieve the true motive our Human birth, otherwise no matter how much we achieve in our life, 

Death will remain the end of all journeys and we won’t be able to achieve our true motive which in my views is the self-realization of our true self.